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    Kelfo got a reaction from AspiretoInspire in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    Omg what a joke!

    Well I was always under the assumption that presents for a kitchen tea were just cheap things like tea towels and spatulas etc so yeah I was pretty taken back when I was helping her put the invitations together the other week and she pulls out registry cards

    It's strange because she's not usually a materialistic person at all.
    The wedding itself is quite extravagant and they are spending a lot of money on it and going all out but that is their choice, you can't expect guests to refund you in presents just because you choose to have a totally over the top wedding
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    Kelfo got a reaction from newbie88 in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    Omg what a joke!

    Well I was always under the assumption that presents for a kitchen tea were just cheap things like tea towels and spatulas etc so yeah I was pretty taken back when I was helping her put the invitations together the other week and she pulls out registry cards

    It's strange because she's not usually a materialistic person at all.
    The wedding itself is quite extravagant and they are spending a lot of money on it and going all out but that is their choice, you can't expect guests to refund you in presents just because you choose to have a totally over the top wedding
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    Kelfo got a reaction from AspiretoInspire in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    The hens I'm completely fine with paying to attend as that's pretty standard aswell as a wedding present but the fact that she's having a registry for her kitchen tea took me a bit by suprise and then to expect us to throw her such an extravagant hens party with so many conditions and rules, it's just a bit much. Her and her fiancé recently built a house and she mentioned they have no kitchen stuff yet so now this kind of explains it, they are waiting for everyone to buy them what they want for the kitchen tea

    She's italian and it's a cultural thing so her sister and cousin are completely supportive and have no problem spending the money.
    However for me and my two other friends it has come at a bit of a shock and we are deffinantly not in the position to be spending this kind of money as we are in our early twenties, studying and two of us have mortgages to pay.

    There's no way I will be putting in $400 for a thermomix, if anything she can use the money from her wishing well to buy one.

    I think we will have to have a talk to her sister about it and just be straightforward about our financial situations and that it's just not possible for us to be spending this much

    Thanks for your input ladies:)
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    Kelfo reacted to newbie88 in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    you dont have to give gifts for every occasion. I would giver her ONE wedding gift. You have enough on your plate as a bridesmaid. I would not spend more than $150 either.
     
    Please don't concern yourself with how it will look.
     
    the marriage is unlikely to last so why should you throw down $2000 plus for her PROM day. Sorry but I think this is excessive, rude and greedy. Life is expensive as it is.
     
    It's the THOUGHT THAT COUNTS.
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    Kelfo got a reaction from Gabby1 in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    The hens I'm completely fine with paying to attend as that's pretty standard aswell as a wedding present but the fact that she's having a registry for her kitchen tea took me a bit by suprise and then to expect us to throw her such an extravagant hens party with so many conditions and rules, it's just a bit much. Her and her fiancé recently built a house and she mentioned they have no kitchen stuff yet so now this kind of explains it, they are waiting for everyone to buy them what they want for the kitchen tea

    She's italian and it's a cultural thing so her sister and cousin are completely supportive and have no problem spending the money.
    However for me and my two other friends it has come at a bit of a shock and we are deffinantly not in the position to be spending this kind of money as we are in our early twenties, studying and two of us have mortgages to pay.

    There's no way I will be putting in $400 for a thermomix, if anything she can use the money from her wishing well to buy one.

    I think we will have to have a talk to her sister about it and just be straightforward about our financial situations and that it's just not possible for us to be spending this much

    Thanks for your input ladies:)
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    Kelfo got a reaction from lambi in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    The hens I'm completely fine with paying to attend as that's pretty standard aswell as a wedding present but the fact that she's having a registry for her kitchen tea took me a bit by suprise and then to expect us to throw her such an extravagant hens party with so many conditions and rules, it's just a bit much. Her and her fiancé recently built a house and she mentioned they have no kitchen stuff yet so now this kind of explains it, they are waiting for everyone to buy them what they want for the kitchen tea

    She's italian and it's a cultural thing so her sister and cousin are completely supportive and have no problem spending the money.
    However for me and my two other friends it has come at a bit of a shock and we are deffinantly not in the position to be spending this kind of money as we are in our early twenties, studying and two of us have mortgages to pay.

    There's no way I will be putting in $400 for a thermomix, if anything she can use the money from her wishing well to buy one.

    I think we will have to have a talk to her sister about it and just be straightforward about our financial situations and that it's just not possible for us to be spending this much

    Thanks for your input ladies:)
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    Kelfo got a reaction from danniDD in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    The hens I'm completely fine with paying to attend as that's pretty standard aswell as a wedding present but the fact that she's having a registry for her kitchen tea took me a bit by suprise and then to expect us to throw her such an extravagant hens party with so many conditions and rules, it's just a bit much. Her and her fiancé recently built a house and she mentioned they have no kitchen stuff yet so now this kind of explains it, they are waiting for everyone to buy them what they want for the kitchen tea

    She's italian and it's a cultural thing so her sister and cousin are completely supportive and have no problem spending the money.
    However for me and my two other friends it has come at a bit of a shock and we are deffinantly not in the position to be spending this kind of money as we are in our early twenties, studying and two of us have mortgages to pay.

    There's no way I will be putting in $400 for a thermomix, if anything she can use the money from her wishing well to buy one.

    I think we will have to have a talk to her sister about it and just be straightforward about our financial situations and that it's just not possible for us to be spending this much

    Thanks for your input ladies:)
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    Kelfo got a reaction from newbie88 in Am I being an unreasonable bridesmaid?   
    Hi ladies long time no speak:)

    I am in need of some advice on how to deal with being a bridesmaid for my bridezilla of a friend.
    Now don't get me wrong she is a lovely person but I feel like this wedding has just blown into royal wedding territory.

    So she is having five bridesmaids consisting of myself and two other friends, her cousin and younger sister(maid of honor)

    So upon agreeing to be a bridesmaid I knew that it would come at a cost and there would be expenses but I feel like it's getting a little out of hand and I don't really know how to approach the subject.

    The wedding is being laid out as so:

    Engagment party- wishing well
    Hens party - $100 each to attend
    Kitchen tea- registry
    Wedding- wishing well

    Does this seem normal?

    We are also organizing the hens party although she is being extremely particular about how she wants it.
    She wants it completely themed and decorated Arabian style, 3 forms of entertainment and has given us restrictions down to that the stripper can't have any tattoos. This will all be at our expense and I very much doubt we will recoup the money

    Her sister has also asked us to all split the cost of a thermomix for her wedding present which would make it $400 each. I think this is rediculous considering all the expenses we already have

    Also just to clarify we are not paying for our dresses or shoes as she got these cheap so didn't mind paying for them however I would have no problem paying for this as I know this is pretty standard when agreeing to be a bridesmaid

    Does anyone else think this seems like a bit much or am I being unreasonable and should just suck it up?
    I just feel like I am working hard at saving money only to have to go spend it on multiple wedding gifts/wishing wells and funding her extravegent hens party
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    Kelfo got a reaction from Shasta in Borderline lift girls with good results?   
    Hey Hun, I was told that I was borderline needing a lift aswell but chose to forgo a lift and just get a larger implant. I was a 10B and got 420cc's and I'm 163cm and 50kilos. I don't think that size implant would be to large at all and I think with your stats you could definantly carry it off. If someone has told me before my BA that I was going to get 420's I wouldn't have believe them as that sounds big for my frame(well to me anyways) but they really are the perfect size and so easy to hide if I want to. I have no regrets with forgoing the lift, as I haven't had kids yet I figured I would rather wait and get a lift once I have had kids and need a revision and I'm extremely happy with the way mine turned out. As HarlowAudrey said, the nipple will sit a little lower but really unless your a topless model/barmaid or stripper the only people who would really see your nipples are you and our partner and if your not bothered abut your nipple sitting a little lower then it doesn't matter.
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    Kelfo got a reaction from jinx369 in Surgery tomorrow with Dr Tang   
    Hey girls,

    so my surgery is finally tomorrow. So excited!

    i had my consultation this afternoon with Dr Tang and he was lovely. Answered every question I had before I had time to even ask and found he was very helpful with sizing, he told me the largest size I could fit and the smallest size he would recommend going and allowed me to choose without pressuring me into anything.

    I was a bit worried going into the consult as I had previously sent my photos to Dr Piyapas and he said that I had stage 3 ptosis(worst case of sagging) and would definantly recommend a lift. I disagreed with this as although I do admittedly have a bit of sagging it was no where near that severe and Dr Piyapas was adamant I would require a lift. Dr Tang did say that to get a perfect result a lift would help but he said I am no wear near stage 3 ptosis and because I have some asymmetry my left beast sits a bit lower so is around stage 1 but my right breast is fine.

    I picked the biggest size he can fit which is 420cc so I will be having that in my right breast and extra high profile and in my left I will be getting 390cc with high profile to help even up the asymmetry.

    Have to be there at 7am tomorrow and I'm so glad I can get it done nice and early and be out of the way.

    so excited and I'm just so relieved my boobs aren't as bad as what I have been told:)
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    Kelfo got a reaction from Newbs in Botched TV show   
    Whattttt I didn't even realise she was transgender
    Are you guys talking about the blonde girl that had her boobs/nose/vag done?
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    Kelfo got a reaction from Excitaboob in Weight and Boobs   
    I lost weight before my surgery and it had a dramatic effect on my natural breasts to the point where I had to get implants just to fill them back up again. One of my close friends lost 12kilos after her surgery and she now requires a lift even though she has only had them for 2 years and they were completely fine before.

    I would very strongly recommend getting down to your goal weight before your surgery
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    Kelfo got a reaction from Jules76 in Weight and Boobs   
    I lost weight before my surgery and it had a dramatic effect on my natural breasts to the point where I had to get implants just to fill them back up again. One of my close friends lost 12kilos after her surgery and she now requires a lift even though she has only had them for 2 years and they were completely fine before.

    I would very strongly recommend getting down to your goal weight before your surgery
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    Kelfo got a reaction from Gggggg in Weight and Boobs   
    I lost weight before my surgery and it had a dramatic effect on my natural breasts to the point where I had to get implants just to fill them back up again. One of my close friends lost 12kilos after her surgery and she now requires a lift even though she has only had them for 2 years and they were completely fine before.

    I would very strongly recommend getting down to your goal weight before your surgery
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    Kelfo got a reaction from PinkFriday in Why are we so judgemental?   
    I see the point your trying to make but you realise what you just said about Marilyn Monroe was also incredibly judgemental?

    How about women so putting each other down full stop
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