Little L Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 I have always wanted a boob job, since I was 15 and met my now husband I said "we'll get married, have two kids, buy a house and at 30 I'm getting a boob job"...well the time has come, I have everything I wished for and it's my 30th birthday this Sunday What is it with all the 'haters' out there? You know that face they all give you The OMG's...you DON'T need a boob job..." "oh you can have some of mine" Of course I don't need a boob job BUT I want one, so that's what I'm doing... Has anybody else got this negative vibe from your friends or peers? Is this just a case of envy because they don't have the courage to do it themselves? Quite often it's the naturally larger breasted women who make the worst remarks... I need a boost from my boobie buddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz68 Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Little L, I think there will always be people that are negative about it! i have only told some family and close friends and found that it was definitely the big-breasted friends that seemed to have the problem (i got the 'you can have some of mine' comment as well) i think we all have our own insecurities and this type of behaviour is just a reflection of their own insecurities! You are doing this for you and that is what is important - just think how happy you are going to be when you have the boobs you always wanted!! and then it will definitely be envy from other girls! I have found that once i really explain everything to people and they realise how excited i am they are a little more supportive and if they arent then they obviously arent worth my time!! of course i have people who are concerned about the cost and the complications with surgery but most have been supportive as they realise it is something i want and cant stop me. Try not to worry too much x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cozzie Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Well I tell you what is is ! I think that women feel jealous that there might be a chance you might look nice to nice for their liking !! You know what I mean and men are either all for it like my hubby who understood I felt something was missing or some men just don't get it at all who cares what others think !! Life's more vibrant when you only worry about the ones you love !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mumof4 Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Totally agree with you girls. Ultimately its your body, your life and no one else's business. If they don't like it or understand it then its their problem. I was worried about other ppls thoughts and comments and I know once ppl see me with my new girls I will get them. But you get to a point in your life where you just have to stop caring about what other people think. My husband has supported me and thats all that matters. I haven't told many ppl so it will be a surprise but honestly f them if they don't approve lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Platinum Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 There will always be haters Little L. Like Cozzie said, some women are a jealous bunch and don't want to be outdone! Only my hubby and best friend know and I'm not going to go out of my way to let people know once I have them. Only your opinion counts with something as personal as a BA, don't let anyone else influence you, it's not up to them. I have always been an A/AA and my bestie has been a D or bigger since year 7. She always wanted a BR and we always joked about her giving me some of hers, but in a nice way, not b****y Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitteh Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 i think we all have our own insecurities and this type of behaviour is just a reflection of their own insecurities! I 100% agree with this! I have quite a few friends that are very overweight and have huge boobs and I also got the you can have some of mine comments. I'm not allowed to be unhappy with my body because they see mine as their ideal and I get mocked if I say that I don't like it because I can't get clothes to fit because I have no boobs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ace80 Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Exactly like what lozz68 & Platinum said, the women were just jealous and don't want to be outdone. They are jealous! They either jealous at you have the money to spent on yourself not on mortgage or other stuffs or very soon you will have breast as big as them or even bigger and perkier than them! The women with big breasts have no right to comment about breast augmentation because they already have a pair of big bust! How would they understand the feeling to have itty bitty boobs and feel less feminine or less sexy? How would they understand the feeling of not able to fill up a bra or a dress or bikini or have to live with push up bra all our life? Little L, just ignore the negative comments and remember the positive one, they don't deserve your trust or friendship if they don't even have the least integrity being a friend to give their best wishes to you and support your dicision or just be happy for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little L Posted September 6, 2012 Author Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Dear Lozz68, Cozzie, Mumof4, Platinum, Kitteh and Ace80. Thank you for the words of wisdom and support. You have all made a lot of sense, such an exciting time...but your all right this is my body and my choice. I have got the support of my husband, family and BF. I will ignore negative comments and remember that three months will fly by and I will have my new girls for Christmas. I've got the biggest grin right now and am doubly excited :) (not that I wasn't smiling already) Cheers again ladies, you've made my day oxxo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
allaboutboobs Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 I agree with the girls. it's just jealousy. or why else would they just not be happy for you? whether they agree with it or not. they should just be happy for you if that is what you want to do with "your" body" i have not told anyone except my partner. and don't plan on telling anyone else. he has been so supportive as he knows i am only doing it for me. not anyone else. My family would go crazy at me if they found out. Even though my sister got hers done about 10 years ago now. Because she never really developed at all my mom got them done for her. but if i said i wanted mine done they have gone off. because "they" think mine are fine i shouldn't get them donw. doesn't matter that i would want bigger fuller ones for my confidence. so my sister tells me how awful they are and that she wouldn't recommend it to ANYONE ever. but when i look at her, she's busy flaunting them when she goes out and looks quite happy in her bikini in the summer. so i think it's just jealousy ans she doesn't want me to get them done. i say, do what feels right for you. look after your self because at the end of the day no one else is going to live your life but you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boobfairy Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 i was just feeling really sad about this last nite. i have wanted to get boobs for ages and have always said if i go to get them done i would want my bff to come with, as support. Her husband is completely against them. He seems to think that anyone who gets them is dumb and vain. Apparently silicone is the main composition of computers, so it makes me part robot. Now he wont evn let her come on a holiday with me, as my support. feel like I have had to lose a friend to book my upcoming BA. My partner just said to me "friends come and go"... So i had a massive sook last night, and my after thought was that i want my boobs evn more. Screw all those that r against it. I'm stuffing my tits with silicone whether they like it or not! And I dont care If I am part 'robot', cos if ur a guy and ur geeky enuff to know that silicone=computer, then computer+girl=dream Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SmallJoy Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 For me, I was one of these haters when the first one of my friends got a boob job when I was just 18. For me, it was a lack of knowledge and the association with porn and fake boobs that made me go ick. 3 years later and here I am knowing every little thing about boob jobs and getting one in 20 days! People's natural reaction to the unknown is to freak out, not much we can do about that. If anyone is being negative who'd you think you'll need the support of, try and educate them? Maybe a few facts and figures will let them know how you're feeling and what you're risking and WHY and they'll come on side and gain a different perspective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ace80 Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 No problem Little L, I literally being surrounded by bithcy people all my life, I know the feelings, just shut your ears and walk away. I will never tell anybody included my family, there are only 2 person that know my plan, my partner and God, oh.. and my bird as she will keep me company by sit on my finger that is busy moving the mouse around for hours while I was reading every post in this forum. I can't imagine if my mother ever found out about my plan, she will tell me every botch job she seen in the news paper and announce to me, I will regret or I will die or get very sick or something. Oh, if my sisters found out, they will give me a look as if I am a tart bcoz BA = porn star and will not miss the oppotunity to let out some smart ass comments to insult me. Oh, and tell my aunts, my cousins..... at the end everybody in the family included the relatives will know I will have BA. So, I will guard my small humble ambition with my life that will make the home security proud! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizdexandivy Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Well I tell you what is is ! I think that women feel jealous that there might be a chance you might look nice to nice for their liking !! You know what I mean and men are either all for it like my hubby who understood I felt something was missing or some men just don't get it at all who cares what others think !! Life's more vibrant when you only worry about the ones you love !! I completely agree with Cozzie! And besides, people that are prone to judging will find an excuse to do it sooner or later anyway - I say give 'em a reason now and get it out of the way early! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Platinum Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 So i had a massive sook last night, and my after thought was that i want my boobs evn more. Screw all those that r against it. I'm stuffing my tits with silicone whether they like it or not! And I dont care If I am part 'robot', cos if ur a guy and ur geeky enuff to know that silicone=computer, then computer+girl=dream Hahaha boobfairy and good on you! Your friends husband sounds like a narrow minded d'bag Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Titteez Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 I have been very open to people that I was looking into getting my boobs done, and yes I got a lot of negative feedback. I have always been the big-boobed girl, but am deflated after breast feeding. My tits still look great in a pushup (which is how everyone obviously perceives them, but I know the truth haha). Negative comments for me mostly come from my flat-chested mates. People seem to think they can talk you out of it for their OWN reasons. I have actually booked my surgery now, and have only told a few supportive friends and everyone on PSF lol. I will deal with the haters post-op, lol, although I'm guessing they'll say less (to my face) once they're already in. It is annoying, but don't let it bother you. I agree with all above comments about it being due to their own insecurities. I cannot wait to join the fake titty comittee. Woooo hoooo... Good luck babes x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Little L Posted September 6, 2012 Author Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 boobfairy, I'm really sorry to hear you have been put in that awful situation, I do hope you can work things out with her. He's a fool anyway, I've found the fashion most surgeon's are trending towards are more natural looking implant that will suit your body and lifestyle. I've heard it's tricky to find one who give you the 'porn star' look, in Australia anyway. But on a positive note, you've got your man by your side and and exciting times ahead. Have you got a surgeon? Date booked? Bring on the robo-boobs!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz68 Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 I will deal with the haters post-op, lol, although I'm guessing they'll say less (to my face) once they're already in. This is my plan for the wider community haha i have told close friends and family and some other people know i was looking into it but once they are in, they're in! no going back so they cant influence my decision and wont try to talk me out of it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minimel Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 Wow I can't believe there are still so many haters out there!!! I for one have been really lucky, my mum and my two sisters know it's something that I have talked about for many years and we are finally in the financial position to do it. One of my sisters said she thinks it's great, but I should wait until after I have kids. I did think about this and it was a consideration, but how do I know what financial position we will be in that far down the track?? I know if I put it off now then can't afford it later I will regret it. There are a couple of friends who I think might be a little judgy, but to be honest I don't particularly care! I know how much better I'm going to feel about myself and thats all that matters to me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ace80 Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 Good on you, Lozz68!! I am envy that you are able to tell your family, I will not have the chance. I am not sad that I can't tell my family though because I can share my thougth here with people that have similar mind about BA, just... you know, it's nice to have the support from family. I think you know what I mean, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ace80 Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 Yes, Minimel, you are really lucky because you can share your plan with your family and actually have the support from them! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz68 Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 Yeah i am happy i have been able to tell my family, and that they are being supportive. As i am quite close with my family and would also like their help with my recovery I felt i needed to tell them, if i hadnt have told them i think they would have been upset that i went into surgery without warning them but that is just my own family dynamics. luckily they all took it really well and after the initial shock have been nothing but supportive about it. My brother thinks i should wait until i have saved all the money myself but he is still going to try and stay with my while i recover. As long as it is what you want, it doesnt really matter what other people think. And your right that here is a place we all support each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Platinum Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 I won't be telling my parents because they won't approve at all. I am going to keep them covered up so not showing any clevege or wearing tight tops when I am around them. I have started wearing my rice sizers around a fair bit so hopefully they don't notice when the real ones are in! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lozz68 Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 I feel that way about my boss at the moment. we work together quite closely and he often takes on a father-like role with me. He is also really religious and always has a problem with new tattoos and piercings so this will be interesting .... high cut tops here we come! lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
molros Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 I only told my family (and only my parents and siblings) after as I knew they'd worry. That was easy as they're all in the UK anyway. I certainly won't be telling them about having to get them redone as I'm sure my mother will have something negative to say. Any women that give you crap are just jealous, either because they can't afford it, don't have the guts, wont like the extra attention you'll get from men (and women), are jealous they're husbands will look at you and because you'll have far better boobies than they do! Thats my take on it anyways..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ace80 Posted September 7, 2012 Report Share Posted September 7, 2012 Platinum- I have the same problem with you, If I ever tell my parents, they will never approve too. So to avoid the drama, I prefer to keep it among myself, my partner and my bird. The reason my parents will not agree with my BA plan is because they are worry and concern about me so why burden them with my stuff and also they are very conservative! So, I will just tell my parents that I am going to visit my partner's family in Queensland which we are, just that the visitation will only happen after my surgery Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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