Op is two weeks from today and I want to cancel

[SmallJoy]

Ladies, I'm freaking out.

I've been second guessing myself the whole time but now it's come to the time I don't know if I can go through with it...

There's so much uncertainty that even though I'm sure this is something I want, I can't help but think I'm being an idiot. I have nice boobs already, they're just not big... So am I stupid for considering this before children? What will my parents think? 12k is a lot of money and I'd I cancel I think I'll lose my 2k deposit but honestly, I don't want to just go through with it just because of the 2k.

Oh goodness!

[Lozz68]

Do you really not want to do it or you are just having second thoughts about the money etc?

Everyone goes through a stage of wondering if they are doing the right thing, and getting really nervous i think! I personally dont think that you are stupid for considering this before children as i am doing the same!! I could wait until after i had kids but basically i really want great boobs now!! - not in some time in the future.

If this is what you want then its not about what your parents think - its about what you think. Having their support would be amazing but if this is something that is going to make you feel better about yourself and give you more confidence then how is it a bad thing?

If you think you will lose the 2k anyway is there a certain date you must cancel by? i really suggest giving yourself as much time as possible before you do this so you feel you can make the right decision. Also, is it possible for you to push the surgery back a little bit while you think about it and maybe have it a little later?

We are all here for you to let off steam hun! You said that you are sure that it is something you want - maybe this answers your question and you are just getting worked up about everything?

[oakley]

It is extremely normal and natural to have second thoughts. People feel guilt about money, worried they will ruin what they already have, cause problems with relationships. Ultimately, if you know it is something that you really want and when you imagine the procedure is all over how happy you will be and feel, then I say go for it. People will react in their own different ways, but eventually they will come around - trust me on that one. People might not even react negatively and you are working yourself up for nothing.

I also haven't had kids yet and I wish I had done this younger, but in the end I know it was what I wanted NOW and I didn't want to wait another 10+ years to have had children and breastfed them, I deserve to be happy with my body now! So do you. There are so many gorgeous mothers on here who have had their BAs after breastfeeding and theirs all look great, so I don't mind at all that I'll have to go for a 2nd, 3rd, 4th one over my life. I know I will be just as happy then as I am now with it.

[Platinum]

I think just about everyone will second guess themselves at some point. I have been doing it, some days I feel really bad about spending so much money and the risks of surgery but other days I feel really happy about it and can't wait until I finally have boobs! I have a tougher case with mine as I have tuberous breasts and they will not look as good as others do after surgery, but they will be much better than what I have now and I do look forward to that.

I have waited until now, when I know I don't want any more kids but if you don't think children are going to happen in your near future then I don't think it will be a problem, you will still get years out of them now before you might be considering another op.

I have not told my parents and won't unless they figure it out for themselves. They will not approve one bit but it is my body and my decision. I am going to still wear looser clothing and not show them off so hopefully a change in my appearance is not that noticable.

I paid the full amount remaining of my surgeons fee this week so no backing out now! I only had to pay a $450 deposit which would have been a bit easier to loose than your $2000 if I cancelled.

Good luck with whatever you decide SmallJoy!

[Daisy_Resha]

I had such bad second thoughts that i didnt even want to go to the hospital anymore. It's natural and i think you would really regret it if you cancelled your op and lost 2K.

Just my 2 cents xxx

[Billychic]

Hey smallhoy, Iv been feeling that exact same way I'm booked in for the 2nd of October and Iv paid my deposit as well. I keep thinking that what if I truly wreck my body by doing this and what if they turn out to big/fake looking and I hate them because to look at my boobs now they are fine just very small. As for stressing about what my parents will think I don't have a dad but my mum has had breast agumentation so she will b fine with it (even tho it's kicking me I haven't told her yet cos I wana leave it as a suprise) but what I'm terrified of is the old ladies I work with if they find out. What will they think and say??? It absolutely terrifies me. So I guess what I'm saying is don't think ur alone Hun I'm freasking out to and am occasionally thinking about pulling out. And feeling like an idiot time will tell I guess good luck

[oakley]

Also if you take a look at the before and after shots of BAs you'll notice they look a LOT like your original boobs, just bigger and more awesome I have definitely seen that with all the girls on here and my own too. So if you girls are worried you'll destroy your nice little ones then I wouldn't worry at all!

[OneDay]

Like the others have said this is very normal!!!

Im 6 mths post Op and I still second guess what I have done from time to time..... I dont regret getting them done AT ALL but I guess the unkown is what plays on my mind lately.

My boobs were small and saggy so what I have now is PERFECT!!

I also had the support of my hubby, close friends and family... maybe your feeling this way cause you are young, your parants don't know and your feeling alone about the whole process?? Do you think thats the case?

Would you be happy to forfit the $2K, wait a few more years....

The money was a huge thing for me also, we had the money sitting there and had plans to buy an investment property, I cried for a full week after hubby said to me " the cash is there, it wont be in the near future so you either do it now or wait and it may never happen if we dont have that kind of money again..." Well now the money is not a concern for me, Its gone so no point thinking of what we could have done with it...... I LOVE MY NEW ASSETS, worth every cent!!! I felt after having my kids and being happily married that I was ready for my boobs which I have wanted for 15yrs!!!

The main thing that plays on my mind now is possible complications and revision surgery! BUT thats what we sign up for .... You have to except the money your about to pay for AMAZING BOOBS and also the assests that will be attached to your chest!!!! Sweetie if your honestly not feeling it well maybe, just maybe you might be better to wait!! If you trust your PS, understand what your signing up for and know your doing it for yourself and not worrying about dispointing friends and family well your BA nerves are just nerves HOWEVER if you really can't see a positive in this anymore maybe loosing $2k and possibly waiting till the desire is back is your only option!!!

Whatever you decide we are all here to support you.... goodluck with your decision x

[BellaM]

I have wanted to have this done for about 8 years and after having my kids and finally saving enough to afford it I still have had doubts and thought about backing out and I HATE my current boobs, if your unsure maybe just see if you can push your date back a little for personal reasons so you don't lose your deposit and spend a little more time on this forum and thinking about

[Ace80]

What is the reasons you want BA? Have you done your research and know what you get into? Do you know, you might have to have another one or two surgery in the future? If you are sure with your reasons, done your research, know very well the pro & cons of BA and implant, you accept the possibility to have more surgery in the future and prepare for it then, you are just nervous and have a moment of doubts. That is normal, Hun. Relax. BA is a surgery that you can change the way you look or even change your life.... of course you are nervous and feel uncertain sometimes. As an example, I know I want to have BA, been researching for 2 year, I still have my worries and uncertainties sometimes....always have the what if.... in my mind. I also think I might be selfish, vain or go into something completely unnecessary...you know. But, when I wake up the next day, I tell myself...I want BA and still want it badly.

As of how's your parents' opinion, well, is the 12k your your own money or your parents? If that is your money and you are sure with your decision, I said go ahead, when they see your happiness after having the implants....they will be happy for you too.

You are not an idiot for spending 12k on yourself, to bring yourself happiness, make yourself more womanly and much more beautiful. Why are you an idiot for doing that?

On the other hand, if you still not 100% sure that you want the implant, then let the 2k be wasted but not the other 10k as you will have to live with the implant for at least 10years. If you think, you better wait until you have children then let the 2k go at least you will not regret when after spent the 10k and find out you don;t them in the first place.