MissS Posted May 20, 2019 Report Share Posted May 20, 2019 Hi girls, is it normal to feel anxious and full of fears and doubts about the decision to get a BA, or did most of you feel 100% sure about it? I am booked in for next month but I'm not sure if I'll go through with it. My breasts are deflated from breastfeeding, and I would love for them to look better. However, I have so much anxiety about it and I don't know whether that is just something I should push through, or whether it means that this isn't right for me. My fear is that I could hate what they look like because I'm so used to my petite figure, and I'm also scared of complications, and breast implant illness (which I know is not proven). How did you girls know for sure that you would like breast implants? Or did you go into it with doubts and fears like me? I really can't tell if this is nerves and fear in the lead up to surgery, or if this means that I will hate having implants. I am scared that I'll hate them and they'll look terrible on me and I'll regret it! Here is how I'm thinking about the decision: Option A: stick with what I have now. I'm a deflated 10B. In clothes, with a push-up bra, I look fine. People are always telling me that I have a great figure (because I'm slim and fit). I'm size 4-6, short, hourglass shape, former ballerina and I have one of those very "tiny" bodies with a small skeleton. Also, I'm a 35 year old mum and am not out clubbing or anything... I go to school, the shops etc and I definitely don't "need" better boobs, I look fine with clothes on. However, in the nude I have these sad empty droopy boobs and they have affected my body image and sense of identity and sexuality, and intimacy. I've tried for 6 years to accept them and like them but I just don't. Option B: get them done. My hope would be to have small, but full breasts. However because I am pigeon-chested and have loose skin from breastfeeding, the surgeon has said I need to go bigger than I want. I'm scared that this will ruin my small figure and make me look fat and dumpy, especially because I'm short with a short waist. I'm also scared I would be more self-conscious of fake boobs than I am of my current empty boobs... it's an unknown. I have been super anxious about all the risks of complications and breast implant illness plus the knowledge that in future I will need replacements etc and it all gets very expensive. So... I booked in because I have been researching this and talking to my husband about it for 6 years and a couple of months ago I rationally thought that I'm not happy with my boobs now, so I should try the implants, I only live once, etc. However as you can tell even though I am booked in, I'm still not 100% on the decision. But maybe I will never be? And I don't know if all these fears are just normal fears and nerves and anxieties in the lead-up to surgery, or if this means that I'm not sure enough to go ahead. I don't want to cancel then keep thinking about this for another 6 years, I either want to do it, or decide not to do it and then never think about this again! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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