BoobieDreamer Posted September 13, 2012 Report Share Posted September 13, 2012 I have seen so many threads about non supportive partners. Why can't they just be supportive? argh! It's so frustrating! I have spoken to my partner last night in hope that he will accompany me to a consultation and instead copped a mouthful. I told him just to support me whatever my decision is. His reply "I can't support someone who constantly changes their mind". Okay, so some-day's I think I will have a BA (whether its now or in the future) and other days I think...no..maybe I shouldn't get it....but this is surgery, this is life changing..so of course I am going to think long and hard about it hence me going to a consultation to see if this is something I might do in the future. I'm in the "should I, shouldn't I" phase and can't seem to talk to him about it because he gets annoyed at me. Have any of you ladies managed to take a non supportive partner with you to a consultation? How did you go about it? I wish he would just listen to me! We had a bit of a fight after our conversation last night and ended the call rather cold. I hate fighting over this but i'm sure if I go to a consultation that I will at least have some indication with what I want to do..and when I want to do it. Because my family aren't supportive I just thought he would be..and it hurts to know that he isnt...He tells me that I "have to listen to him" and that "I'm all talk" but really, this attitude just makes me want to get it done even more. I have read jbe's post and am so glad that her and her partner have worked through their problems. I guess I am in the same boat as jbe, only in reverse...if that makes sense? I just don't don't know if it's worth doing if it's going to cause all these problems. Like jbe said...BA is permanent and I don't want to feel guilty for going ahead with something that I know he isn't happy with. Does this make me a bad person for not thinking about him or as he says not thinking about "our future"? Any advice would be really appreciated..thanks ladies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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