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My boyfriend of 2 and a half years says I don't need a BA and that he loves my boobs how they are now....He is unfortunately a small boobie guy :(

It took me a while of convincing him to be ok with my decision. He's fine with it now, but doesn't want me going huuge. I have shown him numerous boobie photos, and lately have been showing him more larger ones. Around 500-600ccs and he doesn't want me to go that big :( I have said that I respect his opinion but really, its my body & if i am spending so much money on this I am NOT going small! ;)

I don't want to go any less than 400 for sure. As my last recommendation was 450 over the muscle! I don't want natural looking boobies, I want them to look quiet big and round and I don't mind about the fake look.

Did any of you ladies have problems with your partner and the size you wanted to go?

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My partner also said the same thing but I like the round fake look too... I am pretty short and tiny so got 350cc and that got me a 10dd but have recently fluffed so need to go get fitted again.. Probably a 10e. He loves them now and I always say I'm getting bigger when I need a redo and now that he's played with them big he's fine with it.. Big ones are much more fun haha. I say just get the size you like... He won't regret it once he sees them.. My hubby was like "what you would have liked bigger??" At first but now he's used to them it's not so shocking haha.

It's your body.. And he will like you any way you chose to be if he's a good man. Lol xx

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my hubby didnt want me to get a BA but i think more because he didnt want to spend the 15k hahaha but once he knew i was set on it he didnt mind. I was tossing up between 370 and 410 and he was worried they would be too big. Now i have them, he is like next time go 500cc ;)

once they are in you get used to them, people dont know you have had a boob job unless you told them or you get them out in a big way, so even if you got 500+ it doesnt necessarily mean you will always look like you have fake boobs, just when you want to.

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My husband wasn’t overly keen on the idea (especially as Idon’t have the money so he is footing most of the bill!) but he knows howunhappy I am with my breasts, and it wasn’t a snap decision, I have wanted thisfor years.

I showed him photos of how big I want to go and he said thatit was too big and attention seeking but once I explained the girl was thinnerthan me and it would look more proportionate on my body he was fine.

He has been very supportive and listens to my babble aboutboobies all day long, I’m a lucky girl!

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Yeh exactly ladies! I know that once they're in and settled he will love them. I just don't want to waste money and not be happy with the size.

He is worried that 450 will be too big, but I'm not! lol :p

The one thing I am worried about actually is how they will look in my work uniform. I don't want the change to be to obvious for our regular customers lol.

I have only told my family and 1 close friend about my BA. A few ladies from work know aswell. I cant not tell people at work because I do alot of heavy lifting and I wont be able to lift anything for a while and they will get suss lol. Havent told my boss yet tho lol.

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Blondiex i am in a simliar situation to you.

Im tiny & tossing up between 400cc Ultra High Profile & 450cc Ultra High Profile.

I dont want anyone at work to notice !!! ( i work with 50 guys) But i want to dress them up in a bikini or have them looking awesome naked.

Im having mine done in sydney too - only 13 days aaaghh

Not many girls have the Ultra high profile & i notice most go around the 360cc mark & lots of them are taller than me.

Everyone always says they wish they went bigger.

What is they maximum size your surgeon has recommended?

SInce im so small im quite shocked i can go as big as 450cc - i was originally thinking around 300cc but since he suggested 400cc its all i can think about for the last month is 400 or 450 lol

Cant wait to share your journey :)

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My boyfriend is very negative about the whole thing. At first he said he would be supportive but he never has been. Apparently girls only get boob jobs to peacock, that we all have self-esteem problems and that all fake boobs look fake. I've tried telling him over and over again that no, we get it to feel better about ourselves etc, but he won't listen. I've nearly had it with him being so negative. It's starting to affect the way I feel and think about myself. Apparently we are all single and porn stars. Have even tried telling him that a lot of us are either married or in a relationship, some have kids and all of them have respectable jobs.

I've only told him, my mum and my best friend. My mum is supportive and is actually flying over from WA to look after me for a week then is taking me back to WA for the second week of recovery time. My best friend is thrilled for me as I have wanted boobs since I was a teenager. I really don't know what to do with him anymore. He actually made my cry last night.

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My hubby didn't want me to go big, he thought 445's were a big enough size and that 500's would be too big for me. He was really worried about men leering at me! I decided on the 445's partly because of him and I was worried abou the larger ones sagging over time, as I already was saggy and hiding them when I need to. I'm only 10 days out so not sure how they'll end up but are ok so far, I hope I can show them off and hide them! FR me if you want to see the 445's on me.

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My hubby sounds similar to your partner. I honestly think that the guys seem to get really worried about what other guys will think of us. My hubby is certain that I will leave soon after aargh, it's so frustrating trying to convince him otherwise. He also wants small implants and even asked the doctor if I could go smaller than the 315cc (teardrop) and he said no, thank god! Now I am hoping for the 360's and he nearly blew his top (and started a lovely argument ) . I have decided I will do what I want, and he can learn to live with it and I know that once he sees them he will be grinning from ear to ear.

I say go with what you want otherwise you will resent him for making you go smaller . Good luck :)

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He's probably insecure, my man wasn't overly inyerested, he was supportive in the fact that he paid but wasn't really up for any chit chat about it or opinions ... He didn't even say much once I had them.. But he does like them now.

Men can be funny (assholes) when their feeling threatened or insecure, so just try not to take it to heart, I know it's hard when you want them to lean on and they're just not being supportive.. It sucks.. If u need to vent pm me :) x

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My boyfriend is very negative about the whole thing. At first he said he would be supportive but he never has been. Apparently girls only get boob jobs to peacock, that we all have self-esteem problems and that all fake boobs look fake. I've tried telling him over and over again that no, we get it to feel better about ourselves etc, but he won't listen. I've nearly had it with him being so negative. It's starting to affect the way I feel and think about myself. Apparently we are all single and porn stars. Have even tried telling him that a lot of us are either married or in a relationship, some have kids and all of them have respectable jobs.

I've only told him, my mum and my best friend. My mum is supportive and is actually flying over from WA to look after me for a week then is taking me back to WA for the second week of recovery time. My best friend is thrilled for me as I have wanted boobs since I was a teenager. I really don't know what to do with him anymore. He actually made my cry last night.

i know how you feel copperhead my hub was the same, I started saying if you don't support me you won't be playing with em! He's just negative about most things so I just did it for me and stuff what he says!

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Hey Copperhead, sorry to hear your bf is being such an a***. I've heard it all before from my hubby and its more their problem than ours. Try to ride it out as best you can and hopefully he'll come round otherwise give him the boot ! I like to tell my hubby it's like his manhood being small and saggy from overuse (I have breastfed five kids so I like to use that analogy ) and him having the option to change that through surgery and I would support him all the way if it made him feel better !! He just looks at me funny haha

Try not to let it get to you and good luck :)

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i know how you feel copperhead my hub was the same, I started saying if you don't support me you won't be playing with em! He's just negative about most things so I just did it for me and stuff what he says!

It was so horrible last night. And it was in the car. So hard to hide the fact you are trying not to cry. He kept going on about how I don't love him and if his opinion mattered I wouldn't go through with it. I was quiet throughout the whole thing. Sick of him trying to emotionally blackmail me.

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This is a decision you need to make on your own.

And yes i agree, any issues they have are their own insecurities. Many years ago i was a bit like that with one of my partners, i wouldn't want him to get a good haircut, or wear good shoes etc. Its like i was jealous & insecure.

Now im in a good secure relationship i totally support all decisions my bf makes & encourage him to look good.

He does the same for me. Hes gotten used to the bolt ons idea & hes quite excited about it. But he too doesn't want huge big attention seeking hooters. He's told me on my little frame 400cc would be enough - but seriously the only cc he could relate to is the one from the engine of his motorbike. He has no idea how big any of the sizers are or the difference between them nor did he come to the appoinment lol

I am yet to see any girls on the forum thats new implants look ridiculous - actually they all look amazing.

If they are being unsupportive then don't tell them too much - your surgeon will decide whats best for you & no doubt give you a great look.

And for those that have partners being nasty & completely unsupportive - maybe there are other underlying issues of your relationship that need to be addressed. xx

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Hey Copperhead, sorry to hear your bf is being such an a***. I've heard it all before from my hubby and its more their problem than ours. Try to ride it out as best you can and hopefully he'll come round otherwise give him the boot ! I like to tell my hubby it's like his manhood being small and saggy from overuse (I have breastfed five kids so I like to use that analogy ) and him having the option to change that through surgery and I would support him all the way if it made him feel better !! He just looks at me funny haha

Try not to let it get to you and good luck :)

I'm so looking forward to my mum coming over to look after me. If he acts that way around her she'll most likely chew him out and take me back to WA (I'm the baby of the family). If he continues acting that way after the surgery I'll most likely just pack up my stuff and move to Melbourne.

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It was so horrible last night. And it was in the car. So hard to hide the fact you are trying not to cry. He kept going on about how I don't love him and if his opinion mattered I wouldn't go through with it. I was quiet throughout the whole thing. Sick of him trying to emotionally blackmail me.

That's really sh*t... How about how he doesn't love you and your opinion and emotional needs should matter to him! This is what you want and he should support you.. And how can he demand that kind of consideration from you if he isn't giving your needs any consideration... They can be so mean.. I've had my fair share of trouble with my husband over it all, just in the last week gotten over a really rocky patch where we nearly broke up, him getting cranky over stupid Facebook comments and stuff thinking I'm messaging other guys (IM NOT!) and just being insecure and jealous and it always comes back to "you've been like this since you got boobs" it's just him being insecure coz I'm not a bad looking girl and always got attention before I had boobs now its twice as bad.. I just have to be conscious of not noticing it and making him feel loved and stroking his "ego" so he knows I'm only his.. Who doesn't want that anyway.

Men can say really nasty things and (I like to hope) they don't realise how nasty they sound.. Sometimes tho.. They are not as innocent and it could be best to take a step back from the relationship.. It's really hard sometimes. Trust me... I know! I nearly left my husband twice in the last month... Chin up. Xxxx

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It was so horrible last night. And it was in the car. So hard to hide the fact you are trying not to cry. He kept going on about how I don't love him and if his opinion mattered I wouldn't go through with it. I was quiet throughout the whole thing. Sick of him trying to emotionally blackmail me.

He's going about it the wrong way, but it sounds to me like he's maybe afraid you will realise your full hot potential and replace him with a toy boy (or is it boy toy?). That's exactly what my man confessed.

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It was so horrible last night. And it was in the car. So hard to hide the fact you are trying not to cry. He kept going on about how I don't love him and if his opinion mattered I wouldn't go through with it. I was quiet throughout the whole thing. Sick of him trying to emotionally blackmail me.

I have cried many times over my hubs crap too with boobs and otherwise, sounds like he is being a a**** and is very insecure. You don't sound very happy hun, I hope you can get to a place where you are, with or without him. But you've booked boobs and they are coming! (now or later is up to you) :)

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Girls I feel terrible reading your stories!!! that men think you will up and leave them just coz your boobs are bigger!!! I mean, really...do they think that girls with naturally big boobs are always thinking about leaving their husband as well? its crazy. My hubby doesn't care either way with my boobs, he knew I was really unhappy so he was fine with me getting it done, he wasn't really interested in hearing about it all the time haha and I could tell he was tuning out when I started the boob talk. he had no idea what size I was going or what they would look like - he just didn't want me to go too big but I didn't want them huge anyway so it was fine. now that they have settled he loves them, but he's still sick of hearing about them - I send him booby pics every day and i'm always showing them how squishy they're getting, I think the novelty has worn off lol. but he is happy that I'M happy and that's what your partner is meant to do. i'm actually really angry that your partners don't seem to understand you and your reasons - your bf/hubby is meant to be your best friend as well, to listen to you and help you to be the best person that you can be, not to hold you back because of their petty jealousy or insecurity.

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Wow so sad to hear a lot of your comments in relation to your husbands/boyfriends attitude toward such a life changing monumentous decision in our lives! I have been with my husband for approx 18 years and he has known since day one that i would eventually have a BA when I was ready. He has always said he is not a boobs man but more of an arse man (this i def know to be true lol) but i have had to keep reminding him i wasnt getting it done for him so i couldnt care less what he thought about it. I have been pancakes all my adult life and i just wanted to wear dresses and swimmers that i could actually fill in as i couldnt spend my whole life in push up bras. Now that my re-implant has been done and its all going great he says that he has never seen me this happy before ever! Self confidence in ourselves and insecurities about our bodies comes in different shapes and forms and i dont give a **** what anybody says every woman has a right to BOOBS! I dont care that my hips are wide or my thighs are floppy as long as i have these beautiful assetts lol. I know my husband has insecurities about himself and his body and if ever he makes a comment or joke about me finding a toy boy or sugar daddy after my BA i just remind him that he is 12years older than me and if i didnt not want to be with him i wouldnt still be there! Keep being strong and dont let them talk your decisions down even if they are paying for the procedure. xx

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How right you are Jess. I've known for quite some time now that my partner is not the one I wanna spend my life with. As awful as it sounds, I haven't told him I feel this way, but surely he must know it deep down from our daily interactions with each other. We are going to part ways one day in the near future, but for now, here I am, grinning and bearing it. Oh and my BA is with MY money. All of it.

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How right you are Jess. I've known for quite some time now that my partner is not the one I wanna spend my life with. As awful as it sounds, I haven't told him I feel this way, but surely he must know it deep down from our daily interactions with each other. We are going to part ways one day in the near future, but for now, here I am, grinning and bearing it. Oh and my BA is with MY money. All of it.

first, good for you that you're paying for your BA yourself. its nice to be an independent woman, and you can look at your boobs every day knowing you did this just for you, and YOU made it happen :) Its also good that you know that you both aren't happy, I hope in the near future you can part ways on your terms, and be properly happy. its better to be alone, than to be lonely with someone else.

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