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Feeling like im a lost cause

Hi there, I have been contemplating a mummy makeover, but I am really concerned that my body is just too far gone and so the surgeries wont beckon me the results i desire. I am 25 years old now and birthed my third and final beautiful child a few weeks ago. I have never been comfortable in my own skin and have a really negative self image (im crying like a baby while i spill this out), i feel like surgery would really make me into a person ive never been before, one with confidence. I know that even with successful surgery my body will never be returned to its pre baby glory, but i really want to have a feminine silhouette and to feel sexy enough that i can be comfortable showing my body to my husband and even myself! Is all of this possible when my stomach skin is so loose and i have that flap of fat over my belly? Also my breasts (im currently breastfeeding, i go down to about a B cup when im not breastfeeding) are uneven and sag? I dont want to get to the end of my life and have hated my body image the whole way through. I really think it would change my life to correct these problems but i dont even know if its possible. Please let me know if its achievable. And if by any chance my belly button could be fixed?

jadesc April 1st, 2016 NSW

  • Answer
    Ellis Choy

    Ellis Choy

    43 answers

    Plastic Surgeon
    New South Wales, Australia

    Hi there,
    I'm sorry to learn about how you feel about yourself due to various post pregnancy body changes despite the recent birth of your third and final beautiful child!
    I believe you are far from being a lost cause, and there are in fact many of my patients who share similar struggles in similar situations like yours. I think you'll be an excellent candidate for consideration of a Mummy Makeover with appropriate body contouring surgery for both your breasts and abdomen. However, this is not a minor undertaking and you'll need to be realistic in your desires and expectations of what you endeavour to achieve through surgery. Timings and commitments are also important considerations in balancing various competing priorities in your busy family life right now.
    I would recommend you to visit a specialist plastic surgeon for a in person consultation regarding your situation before determining the appropriate next step of action. 
    Hope that helps.
    Best wishes
    Ellis Choy
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    Pouria Moradi

    Pouria Moradi

    13 answers

    Plastic Surgeon
    New South Wales, Australia

    Congrats on the birth of your 3rd.By the sounds of things you would benefit from a tummy tuck and a breast lift and your goals sound achievable.
    The best thing to do is wait atleast 6months after you have finished breast feeding and your weight has stabilised.Then you can embark on corrective surgery.
    I hope this helps.
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    Dr. Raymond Goh

    Raymond Goh

    123 answers

    Plastic Surgeon
    Queensland, Australia

    Hi Jadesc.
    Thank you for taking up the courage to post your story. 
    Your body is definitely not "too far" beyond repair and restoration - that is the essence of plastic surgery - to restore form and function to what nature has taken away from you! 
    Congratulations by the way, on your third child. It is good to see that you are taking the time to consider yourself. Many mothers I see devote so much of their life to their families that they have little time left to think and care about themselves. After having three kids, it is not unusual to see the stretch in the tummy and breast as you have shown in your photographs. I think that after you have completed breast feeding and your weight is stable, a tummy tuck together with a breast lift/reduction will likely give you a good result. You should seek a consultation with a plastic surgeon, discuss your desired outcomes, and most importantly, be realistic with your expectations. Remember, plastic surgeons can create positive and dramatic changes in a patient, but we can only work with the canvas we are given. 
    All the very best.